Val Boyko writes beautiful and enriching words on living life in the balance of all things at her blog, Find your Middle Ground. Last week she shared a delightful acronym for the word STOP in her post, STOP and Find Balance.
STOP in Val’s words is a good reminder to,
S = Stop for a moment…
T = Take a full deep breath…
O = Observe… What am I aware of right now? … What is alive in me? Can I be with it whatever is coming up right now.
P = Proceed… What do I choose to do now that I have stepped back and been an observer of myself. The options are many…
I don’t work Fridays. By design my work-week is four days. As I’ve got so much to do right now, however, taking Friday’s off is not my choice.
Which means, I need to STOP more often to find myself amidst all the lovely things on my plate because, no matter how lovely the things, I can get lost in the busy-ness of it all.
C.C. plays hockey Friday afternoons and afterwards was watching the NHL game with team mates. When I got home I had the house to myself and in the quiet of it all found myself immersed in the joy of creation in my studio.
Saturday, I had intended to work on the final proof of the report we need to have printed this week, but I didn’t have the final version back yet, so let my plans go. I spent a bit of time cleaning up some work I needed to do and then, once finished, slipped back down to the studio to keep playing.
Yesterday, still no final proof and a great opportunity to keep creating.
But, rather than paint, I worked on the brooch bouquet I’m creating for our wedding. If you’ve never seen a brooch bouquet, check out Pinterest ideas. They’re stunningly beautiful and as in the case of my bouquet, have meaning. Some of the brooches I’m using were contributed by family and friends. There’s an elephant my sister gave me years ago, one from my father’s sister, another from the wonderful Kerry Parsons who will be officiating at our wedding.
I’d started working on the bouquet after Christmas and was stalled in that space of chaos in the middle of creation — the not finished project hasn’t had enough space to breathe and my head wants to tell me to give up. It is quite time-consuming as each brooch needs to have two wire stems affixed and spun together to create enough stability to hold their place in the bouquet.
The process is meditative. As I worked, I felt myself settling into the rhythm of creation, and even though I was watching “Romancing the Stone” 🙂 on Netflix, I found myself slowing down, I felt my breathing deepen, my heartbeat quiet.
I listened deeply to my heart yesterday. As I wired and spun and worked to create a thing of beauty to carry on our wedding day, I rejoiced in the wonder and awe of walking in love. As I carefully constructed the bouquet, I cherished the memories of each piece of jewelry and savoured the essence of the person who gave it to me and the gift of carrying them in my heart, and hands, today and every day.
It still needs some work to find its balance, some added space fillers to find its symmetry. But I’m happy. It is, like all things creative, a work in progress.
great column
I like the STOP
I think I’ll go STOP a while and then GO
M
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Nice to have your company Mark!
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I never heard of a brooch bouquet, but I love it!! I like the STOP acronym, it’s just perfect.
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Thanks Mary — I hadn’t heard of one either until I was looking at bouquets on Pinterest — I will admit…. it’s heavy! 🙂
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Thank you so much Louise for sharing the STP acronym and pausing to find our middle ground 🙂
I love this brooch bouquet!!
May your Fridays continue to be sacred pauses 🙂
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Thank you Val — I love the acronym. Blessings.
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I love the idea of a brooch bouquet Louise and the knowing that you are carrying a piece of so many you love down the aisle with you and in your heart! ❤
Diana xo
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Thank you my beautiful friend. ❤
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In my twenties, I worked as a counselor at a hospital in the Psych Dept. Mostly with the adolescents but when the insurance got really bad (the beginning of the end) so sad! I was moved to the adult wards as well. Looking back, I was so unprepared. I’d been hired specifially for the adolescents so WHAT was I doing!?!
But they had a guide line that they used for charting….called S.O.A.P. ing a chart. And it helped me do my job within that structure,
S was for what they said, O is what you observed, A was your assessment and P was your plan! It made it a little easier to know what was expected of me. Not to counsel but report.
I love your STOP! Especially O and P! It is like a guideline to life! Just like SOAPing was for me! LOL.
I love your broach! YOU my dear are an artist.
And by the way the sign of a true one… is to never have a plan.
I’d spend a whole day cleaning my art studio and by the next, I had 5 projects started!
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Tee hee! Love that sign — and your acronym too! And I love how the objective with SOAP was to counsel — not report. Lovely!
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The brooch bouquet is so beautiful Louise!! What a fantastic idea. Love the post…love Val and the STOP acronym. Have a super wonderful week! ❤
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Thank you Lorrie — I am having such fun creating it!
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Your brooch is fantastic!
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Thanks Julie! 🙂
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I love the STOP advice.
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