Fear lives in my belly. It is that grumbly, rumbly, churning feeling of disquiet that eats away at my peace of mind. When I give into it.
Love lives in my entire being. It is that warm, soothing, tranquil feeling of quiet joy bubbling up to embrace my peace of mind. When I give into it.
Which one will I choose? It is up to me.
I can’t try to ‘be fearful’. I am or I’m not.
Yoda said it best.
“Do or do not. There is no try.”
Which will you choose today?
To take the path to the dark side, or to keep walking the path into the light?
Will you allow your fearful thoughts to drag you down, or will you allow loving kindness to lift you up and draw you out of the darkness and hold you in the light?
It is your choice.
On the weekend at Choices Seminars, I had a moment of fear wash over me. I’d made a mistake in how I presented something to the group, and my mind went into hyper-active defensive mode when I heard my co-facilitator point out to me how stupid and unprofessional I was.
Now — here’s the thing. That is not what my co-facilitator said. All they really did was provide me some constructive feedback on how to do it better next time.
In my fear of making mistakes, of looking stupid in front of the group, of being shamed for not doing it right, my fear heard their feedback totally out of context to what they said.
In the moment, my fear rose up and heard condemnation. In the moment, my fear drove me away from courage and truth into the darkness of criticism.
I’d like to tell you I recovered right there on the spot. 🙂 Truth is, as soon as I could gracefully do so without drawing attention to myself, (which was at the first break) I left the room and went to the washroom, had a little pity party and then pulled myself together. When the session resumed, I stood in front of the group and continued.
And here’s the thing about those moments.
It was a breakthrough. A moment of such deep clarity and light I could not avoid the truth that came spilling up out of me as all night long I worried over and thought through the events of that evening trying to discern why my reaction to such a simple moment had been so visceral, so immediate, so violent.
The next morning, I awoke, tired yet really clear on what that moment of feeling shame at the front of the room represented. And in my enlightenment, the sun broke through the darkness and light illuminated my path in all its brilliant clarity.
Since a small, small girl I had held a belief within me that is not true. I didn’t even know the belief was there until such an insignificant moment erupted into a deep dive into truth and the ‘belief that is a lie’ rose to the top and screamed in my face and, I swear, felt like it was ripping my heart out.
I won’t go into the details of the ‘belief that is a lie’, I still have a lot of processing to do on it. I will tell you though that I am celebrating. I am dancing. I am shouting for joy. This ‘belief that is a lie’ has caused me a lot of pain, confusion and harm. On some deep subconscious level I have always been aware of its presence, lurking in the darkness, disturbing my status quo and jeopardizing my capacity to feel and know pure joy.
Now that I see it. Now that I know it. Now that I can face it, I can deal with it.
I am grateful.
I cannot heal or change what I do not acknowledge.
I acknowledge that the ‘belief that is a lie’ does not serve me well. It does not bring me the ‘more’ of what I want in my life.
Today, I choose to step boldly, confidently and joyfully onto the path of light, love and well-being.
Which path do you choose today?
Namaste.
We will ALWAYS make mistakes, period.
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So true Mark! And what I also know as true is that our mistakes can lead to amazing growth! Hugs
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Using your weakness as strength – brilliant
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Thank you Jennie — and how lovely to ‘see’ you!!!! I miss you and the beautiful, warm and loving grace you embody so effortlessly.
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The path I choose is always dappled with sunshine, light and shadow. 💛
So many of us have beliefs that we hold on to that are not the truth.
I know I let go of mine, yet I still see my mother believing hers.
Waking up is not easy Louise 💕
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What I found fascinating in this process Val is that while I have let go of the beliefs I hold that I know are not true, there was still this big one lurking, waiting until I was ready to see it so I could choose what I needed to do with it — our minds are fascinating places! ❤
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I’m always surprised at how we only see when we are ready Louise 💛
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Sooooo many beliefs I have to forget.! Thank you Louise!
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Hugs Nikky ❤
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I remember vividly a colleague telling me that I was unprofessional. It was after one of those dreadful university committee meetings during which, in order to break the monotonous, I cracked a joke and everyone laughed. Except her, of course. Thanks for this post and I am sensitive like you, Louise xxx
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Isn’t it amazing how we focus on the ‘1’ Julie? Here are you, relieving the tension for everyone — and one person finds it inappropriate. LOL — being sensitive is a good thing I think — as long as it doesn’t disrupt my peace of mind! Many hugs dear friend. ❤
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Have you thought about approaching the Zurakowskis.? They might be interested…..love Ula.
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I am kind of still waiting for that “face down” moment where I can see why I react to things the way that I do.
I wish I had learned about setting boundaries before I had kids. Then maybe they would be setting better boundaries.
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