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A blog by Louise Gallagher

The Power of Yes


I am a “Yes’er”. When asked, “Will you?” “Can you?” I have in the past, inevitably replied, “Yes” — before considering all my options, before weighing the impact of what I am agreeing to will have on my life.

Some of my ‘yesy’ behaviour comes from a belief I do not have the right to say ‘no’. It also comes from a belief that if I do say no, people will be mad at me, they won’t like me. And, it comes from a place of wanting to be needed and to feel important.

Being a ‘Yes’er’ has also lead to some wonderful things. It’s lead me to do things I never before imagined I could, take risks I never thought I could, go places I never dared to venture before. But far too often, my automatic yes has come without thought, without measuring the distance between what someone else wanted and what I needed to feel balanced, whole and at peace within me and in my world.

I am learning.

I am learning to find my authentic yes. That yes that comes from knowing what I want more of in my life is only found from a place where I give myself the gift of freedom to ask for what I want, state my truth and do what fits best in my life, without compromising myself to fit into someone else’s.

I have discovered my authentic yes is a constant journey through my ‘no’. My authentic yes is not the opposite of No. It is not the immediate response of, “No. I won’t do that.” Or, “No, you can’t”. It comes through knowing what I want more of in my life. It comes from understanding I need to give myself time and space to breathe into the question, or, as Rilke wrote:

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” Rainer Maria Wilke

There have been many times in my life I have said no to the things I wanted to do and yes to the things I knew were not healthy, healing, supportive or loving of me. In those times, I was not saying YES! to life, I was saying NO to living in the light. No to shining. No to being my authentic self.

In those moments when I said yes to the things I really didn’t want to do simply because I was afraid or feared the opinions of others, I was saying yes to what I didn’t want in my life. I was acting from the dark-side of authenticity, the shadow side of living.

I’m giving up the game. Giving up saying yes to what keeps me playing small, holds me back from breathing freely. And, I am saying no to the things I know hurt me, pull me down and drag me back.

I am leaping into the power of YES!

YES! This is my one and only life and I choose to live it in the light.

YES! This is my time to shine. To dance. To laugh and spin about and be real and authentic and true to who I am.

YES! There is no one path to finding myself because no matter what path I take I am always on the path with me. This is the path where I find myself fearlessly saying YES in the joy of knowing, when I treat myself with tender loving care, when I celebrate my strengths and share my gifts, I am creating ripples of my best for all the world to see. In my YES! I know I am exactly where I want to be living this one wild and precious life for all I’m worth.

Author: Louise Gallagher

I believe in wonder. I believe we are all magnificent beings of divine beauty. I believe we can make a difference in this world, through every act, word, thought. I believe we create ripples with everything we do and say and want to inspire everyone to use their ripple to create a better world for everyone. I'm grateful you're here.

24 thoughts on “The Power of Yes

  1. Very well written, and I couldn’t agree more. Living like we do, that aren’t many people asking me for very much. When we spend time were our family is, it’s a little different. We help out when and where we can, and enjoy the small space of time we have there.

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  2. Great post–it’s something I’ve been trying to express myself!

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  3. Reblogged this on Existential Farmgrrrl and commented:
    Great post–something I’ve thought about a lot, and it’s said perfectly here!


  4. LG,

    Put me down as a YES, sometimes.

    And count me NO, sometimes.

    And please, may I be granted the wisdom to NO the difference.

    Yes, I know these get confusing, you no!



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  5. I get it. And you are wonderful Louise. I have begun to forward various posts (from various people) to my mother so thank you!

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  6. It’s easy to say yes.. and then regret it. I volunteer for things and then realize it’s not for me, etc. Good post!

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  7. YES!! Love it Louise! ❤
    Diana xo

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  8. I’m trying to get better at saying no… but I am really glad I do say yes…

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  9. I am also a yeser and there have been times when I have said yes when I should have said no, that said if I say yes I do not like to back out at the last minute I can’t stand people who say yes then change that to a no at the last minute that I think is just rude

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    • It’s such a delicate balance isn’t it Joanne — when I say yes I want to give my 100% yet, if I realize I really meant no, not yes, I know I cannot give my 100% because my heart isn’t in it and then….. lol — we humans make things so complicated sometimes! 🙂


  10. Happy for you – would so like to see you again but in the meantime, give our love to your family and most of all to yourself for all your worthwhile projects. You are amazing……..Love, ME and Peter

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    • Mary Ellen! How delightful to see you here! — though in person with Peter would have been so much better. 🙂 Hopefully this year, we will see one another again! I shall give mom and everyone your love. ❤


  11. I love this Louise … This is profound. Thanks for sharing! It resonates close to my heart



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  12. Yes! I love how you said that “yes” isn’t necessarily the opposite of “no” — I get that, it makes sense.

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