“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more ‘manhood’ to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.”
Yesterday, I challenged myself to write my six principles for daily living. It was more complex a task than I thought.
First, there’s the little voice inside me that whispers, ‘rather grandiose of you Louise to think you can write such a thing.” Secondly, there’s the indecision, the questioning, the looking at the truth — do I really uphold these principles in my everyday living? Do I really live by these principles in everything I do and say?
Not sure I do every moment of every day, but — and here’s the beauty of taking the time to consciously write out what I believe are the principles that are important to me — they are principles that I want to live by, principles that guide me in every thing I do and say.
When I know better, I do better. In writing about the principles I believe in, I learn more about where I am, and what I want in my life. I learn more about me — my insecurities, my strengths, my belief structure. I have a measuring stick against which to gauge my progress, minute by minute, encounter by encounter. I have a rock solid foundation upon which to build my life.
I believe we are all connected. That when I live by the Golden Rule, ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you’, I am accountable for everything I do and say. When I respect the differences between me and my fellow man, when I honour who I am by making room for who others are, I am walking my truth, being the difference I want to create in the world by connecting to what is important to me and the world around me.
I believe we are all magnificent human beings, capable of greatness in everything we do. I believe in my own personal significance. That who I am, what I do makes a difference. It is my responsibility to recognize my gifts, acknowledge them and use them wisely. It is my responsibility to step softly, to ensure my footsteps are like butterfly kisses, each imprint inspires imagination, but leaves no mark to mar the surface upon which they passed.
I believe kindness counts. That being kind creates a more caring world. When I care for the universe, everything and everyone in it, I am contributing to a better world and creating a world of value in everything I do, and every where I go.
I believe in honesty and truth. When I honour someone with my truth, I am opening the door for their truth to enter. When I am honest with myself, I love myself exactly the way I am. When I look at myself honestly and truthfully, I give myself grace to lovingly acknowledge my short-comings, my inconsistencies, my fallibilities. In my truth, I set myself free to change the things I do that hurt me and those around me.
I believe in treating all people with respect. How I treat people is a reflection of who I am. It’s my responsibility to be the best me I can be at all times.
The question is: Have you written down your principles? If not, what are you waiting for?
I am at the 7 cities Conference on Housing First and Homelessness for the next 2 days. This post was originally posted on my Recover Your Joy blog, on Thursday, September 27, 2007. I was fascinated to see how these principles are still my truth today.