Black Eyed Peas did a new version of Where’s the Love?
I saw it on FB this morning — it’s powerful, provocative and, I sigh. If only we could listen. If only we would open our ears, our eyes, our hearts, our minds, we wouldn’t have to ask, Where’s the Love?
We’d be it.
Challenge is, to each of us, every 7 billion plus humans who inhabit this planet, our experience of Love is not the same thing.
And as I write that, I can hear my brother-in-law saying, “Don’t forget the animals. You can’t leave them out of a discussion about Love.”
See what I mean? Love is… whoever we are. However we are in this world.
We see Love through our perspectives, our worldview, our priorities, passions, beliefs, experiences.
I remember Thelma Box, the creator of Choices Seminars, saying once that she’d read an article on child abuse and in it, the author stated that for someone who abuses their own child, it is an expression of their love for that child. Not because that act is what Love Is. But rather, because in their mind, that is how they learned to express, get, show… Love.
Years ago, I was in the midst of a relationship that was killing me and finally found the strength to go to the police. The Detective I spoke with said as I was walking out the door, “You know, this isn’t love. Love doesn’t hurt that much.”
Intellectually, I knew he was right.
Spiritually, emotionally, I didn’t believe him.
In that relationship ‘love’ had become so warped by the abuse I was living within, I believed the pain made Love real — I also believed I didn’t deserve Love anyway, so the pain was better than nothing.
Everything and all.
Love doesn’t have to change.
And that’s the challenge. Love is IN everything we do because Love is all around. It’s just, we get trapped in the darkness of our expression of the pain within, so captured by our need to create the world the way we want to see it, we forget, there are 7 billion plus expressions of Love on this earth.
Where is the Love?
Love is in the father hitting his child. The mother doing drugs on the corner, leaving her children alone.
Love is in the tender touch. The gentle look. The loving words.
Love is in the soldier raping a woman because he holds the gun and she is just a spoils of war.
Love is in the soldier putting down his gun to carry a puppy out of a bombed out building.
Love is in all these things.
There is no question about where Love is.
The question is, What will you do for Love? Where are you in Love?
Are you hiding behind your pain, denying Love access by stomping on hearts, killing your own dreams?
Are you pushing your anger out into the world to keep from caving into despair?
Are you staying locked in your room, surrounded by loneliness because you are too afraid of getting hurt by venturing into the world?
Are you using your love as a weapon, as a means to get what you want, control who you can, create a world of mass destruction?
Or, are you willing to give into Love to create a world of peace, within and all around you?
Where is the Love?
It’s in you. Live it. Now.