Truth is, we have all avoided or tried to ignore truth in certain situations.
We have all found ourselves in places where facing the truth is the last thing we want to do.
It can be a big thing, like realizing it’s time to leave a relationship and wanting to pretend it’s not.
It can be smaller things. Like knowing you’ve got a cavity and need to get it fixed but letting it go, on and on. Or, avoiding telling a friend you can’t make their birthday party because you had a prior commitment, but don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings by telling the truth.
Avoidance strengthens fear.
When we avoid truth-speaking, it strengthens our fear of truth.
There is nothing to fear in truth-telling, but when we avoid it, there is a momentary relief that happens when the brain realizes it ‘dodged that bullet’ for a moment.
Then reality hits. The truth is still unspoken. You think about facing it but the critter inside says, “Remember how good it felt to not tell truth? You can have that feeling again by avoiding it now.”
And somewhere inside you a voice responds, “Oh yeah. That’s right. It felt okay to not deal with that now. I’ll put it off some more. Maybe I’ll never have to face it.”
And the relationship, or your toothache, or the leak under the sink, gets worse and your feelings of wanting to avoid the truth strengthen. Not because the truth is fearful, but rather, because your brain has decided avoiding truth feels better than speaking truth.
To avoid falling into the trap of convincing yourself not speaking truth is better than facing reality, be like Nike. Just do it.
No matter your fear. No matter the voice inside urging you to retreat. Just do it.
As the saying goes, “Turn up. Pay attention. Speak your truth. Stay unattached to the outcome.”
To avoid fear or feeling badly about yourself, or negative self-talk that whispers about your inadequacies and short-comings, clean up your life by getting clean on the truth with yourself.
That doesn’t mean it’s a free ride to say what you want. Remember, in all things be kind.
Truth in its purest form does not hurt. It sets us free. To be kind. To be thoughtful. To be caring and above all, Loving.
For me, the truth in this moment is, I’ve been fighting a cold all week. I have struggled with being present because I’m tired and feeling less than par. I’ve wanted to avoid turning up because I’d rather be in bed!
Truth is, when I turn up how I am, where I am, I bring the best of me, however I am in that moment, to the page.
In my turning up, I remind myself that no matter my fear of ‘writing bad’, or not making sense, or not being as impactful as I tell myself I need to be, being here isn’t about ‘the outcome’. My turning up here is something I do for myself every day to set myself free to live my day in the light of knowing, I am giving my best, in this moment right now and, my best is good enough.
And that’s the truth!