Dare Boldly: No Matter Your Age

It happens to all of us. We can’t get over it, under it, around it. From the moment we take our first breath to our last, it keeps on happening.

Ageing.

It is as much a part of our lives as breathing.

Yet, we do not fear breathing. Most of the time, we don’t even think about it. It just is. Automatic. Necessary. Essential.

Yet, so many of us fear ageing. Or if not fear it, think about it a lot, spend inordinate amounts of time trying to slow it down. Push it away or put it off as if we have the power to stop its natural progression with the fervour of someone trying to stop diarrhea with just their mind.

And still, always, ageing happens. Slowly. Inexorably. It’s always there. We cannot avoid it.

Ageing is on my mind.

Perhaps because my beloved and I just had our first encounter with COVID and, until he was approved for Paxlovid, I was sure he was destined for the hospital. In those moments of helplessness and fear, the fragility of life takes centre stage. And, as in the COVID experience, so does age. The older you are, the more susceptible to its insidious nature.

But, even before COVID made its appearance on the world stage, our ageing nature was always present.

It is part of life. It is life.

Which is why I’ve decided to try a new venture. Call it exploration.

I’ve decided to explore the many faces of ageing in a series of short (1 – 3 min) video conversations about ageing. I’m calling these conversations, Dare Boldly: No Matter Your Age.

‘Cause let’s face it. It happens to all of us. But, what I’ve noticed as I slide closer to the last year of my 60’s… ageing feels as if it’s happening faster and getting to feel heavier on my mind the older I get!

And I want to understand it. I don’t want to feel burdened by age. I want to live within its grace. To be as curious, excited and inspired by life, no matter my age.

I don’t want to be stressed about the extra aches and creaks of my body as much as I want to be committed to taking tender, loving care of my well-being. Inside and out.

I don’t want to be wishing to turn back time. I want to be dancing in time with the rhythms of life.

And, I don’t want to carry regrets for things I’ve done, or haven’t done. I want to carry the joy of stretching myself every day to live my fullest, most engaged life yet.

And to do all of that, I have to face, with loving, joyful acceptance, the many gifts, challenges and opportunities life brings me at every age.

I hope you come along with me on this journey. I hope you share your thoughts, ideas, feelings, hopes, wishes and dreams about what it means for you to be full of life and daring boldly, no matter your age.

Dare Boldly: No Matter Your Age – Intro

26 thoughts on “Dare Boldly: No Matter Your Age

  1. What a good idea. And it’s so nice to get to see you “live” and hear you after reading and looking at pictures all this time.
    I’ve had an interesting relationship with this aging process (will be 70 in a few weeks) because I had such health problems starting in my 30’s. The slow steady progress of healing body and especially muscles has moved me to a place of better health and bodily comfort at this age than I had when younger. I’ve also come to care much less about the looks aspect of it and am much more immersed in the good health, feeling strong part of it. At the same time, as many say, I can’t quite take in how old I am and am often surprised when I see that old face and the grey hair in the mirror because I feel the same person in some ways πŸ™‚

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    • Thanks Leigh for your wonderful comment — and insights! I can relate! πŸ™‚ Though my body and I do not have quite the same ‘healthy’ relationship as you with yours — your journey to well-being has been inspiring and fascinating.

      I too am not as focused on ‘looks’ as much as feel — how do I FEEL today? Inside. Am I content? Am I inspired? And whether my day is in a mad, sad or glad place, how am I navigating its waters. Am I moving with the flow? Against it? Fighting the current? Enjoying the immersion?

      And yup — I too feel like ‘the same person’, it’s just the face in the mirror is a tad more experienced and has much more life on it! πŸ™‚ I’ve decided to wear it with joy — which is also why for this series I am choosing to shoot the videos without make-up. Once wonderful outcome of COVID is the letting myself be seen without artifice. And, while I never wore a lot of make-up and will still don a touch of lipstick (for some reason I don’t think of it as make-up! πŸ™‚ ) I mostly go with nothing else unless it’s a really big event — weird. I was about to write, “and put my best face forward” when I realized — wow. NOw that’s the some pretty powerful societal/advertising/cosmetic industry conditioning to think my ‘best face’ requires make-up!

      Something to ponder.

      Thanks so much for getting the conversation going. I look forward to lots more opportunities to dive in together!

      Hugs!

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  2. What an interesting concept – how to move forward as we age, gracefully you say?! I have read, re-read your words, watched your video a few times through the evening hours. I struggled to put my thoughts into words that have been swirling around trying to find a thread to weave into a fabric that reflects my concept of aging. I am 70, 3 months shy of the next number, just a number. I have never thought of myself as being 30, 40 or any number whenever that birthday rolled around. I am ME, I a, proud to be ME. The years I have accumulated are full of learning experiences, mostly positive, good memories that have helped me to move forward to deal with whatever life throws at me. I may not be svelte in form. I may not always do what others think I should. I may not always straighten out those unruly kinks, waves that frame my unadorned face for it feels good not to constrained by the latest colours of blush, lip colour that office etiquette dictated was the norm way back when. I am proud of the gray with white streaks of hair that refuse to be tamed by a clip or tortoise shell comb. I enjoy that bowl of freshly made pasta with olive oil and garlic. I swing my golf club with all my strength and laugh as the ball goes nowhere. I am outside, breathing fresh air, enjoying the walk as I push my cart, it is my version of exercise. I can sit with friends to debate current events for hours yet enjoy the solitude when a good book is in my hands. I complain of aches, some worse and lasting longer than I think they should be bothering me. Yet these do not stop me from enjoying each day as it dawns regardless of sun, snow or rain. There is so much more I need to explore, to experience, to learn. And these all come with age as what came before helps me to better understand and accept what comes tomorrow. I am ME, I love the age I am whatever it may be. I accept ME for who I am, what I represent, what I have accomplished, and my failures that showed me there is a better way. With ageing I have learned to say NO. I cannot be everything to everyone. An old Polish saying, ” Not my circus, not my monkeys” is my motto. As I age I have learned that if I do not look after myself first, I cannot help others. A hard lesson to accept but worth the journey to get to know oneself!

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    • WOW! WOW! WOW! Iwona — what a beautfiul, compelling and inspiring comment. I would that the entire world embrace your words and live them true every day — I sure plan on it!

      Thank you my friend. You are the epitome of “Ageless Living”.

      I love both the peace and grace imbued in each word. I love that your truth flows easily and effortlessly. And I love how you are in this world!

      And… I love that old saying. A very high-ranking police officer once gave me a similar one — “Not my pig. Not my farm.”

      Have a beautiful, ageless day.

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    • β€ž I swing my golf club with all my strength and laugh as the ball goes nowhere.β€œ I love this line. It’s a beautiful way to engage your body just as much as a metaphor on living life to the fullest. Gotta remember this one.

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  3. Love thisπŸ’πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’• There is so much to explore and embrace … and a lot of inherited conditioning to let go off. I look forward to what unfolds for you are many others πŸ’πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’

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    • Ah yes, Val. That inherited, cultural and collective conditioning that permeates so much of how we see and look and feel about the world around us. Interesting, even just 2 days working on this and I can feel a shift, a deepening, an awakening. Glad you’re here too! ❀

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  4. how interesting! As I’m reading your blog ‘backwards’ I wasn’t aware in your newest post that you made this an ongoing exploration. Good idea.
    Love the fact that I can ‘see and experience’ you ‘live’…. You’re a wonderful friend and I’m happy to ‘know’ you!
    (sorry for all the exclamation signs and all the apostrophes and the dot.dot.dots…. – it’s just me!)

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  5. What a timely post. My mom just turned 69, and while she feels well mentally and emotionally which Iβ€˜m thrilled about, I was shocked to see how much her mobility and physical fitness has deteriorated since retiring. I love what you write about taking tender care of yourself, inside and outside. Nobody can do this for us. Iβ€˜ve come to the same conclusion and am focusing on just that, especially nutrition-wise. Hopefully, some of it will have a ripple effect on my family.
    On a side note: Thank you for dropping me that line of concern when I suddenly disappeared from the face of the blogging earth almost four years ago. I was actually being fine, having just met someone who pulled me out of my therapeutic isolation I described in my blog, and stopped blogging. So warm belated thanks! And no worries. Weβ€˜re still together and I’m still fine, Iβ€˜ve just entered a thrilling new chapter of my life that requires some more introspection again, so back to blogging. πŸ™‚

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    • How exciting for you!!!! Last year my youngest daughter came in to help me while I was β€˜the chef’ in a back country lodge. Before we left, we hiked up to a mountain lake and I was grateful for my still strong body. While I have aches I never had before it just means I get to rest more often and spend time just sitting by the lake admiring the view. My hope is the by staying active my daughters will too! Good for you for inspiring your family to do the same. 😍

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  6. Your smile is contagious! I loved seeing you in video. It pairs all the words I’ve read for so long with a real beautiful person- YOU. ❀️

    Though I am younger (30’s), I will be following along with this series. I would really enjoy hearing women of all ages honestly share their perspective from where they stand. It is something I do not receive from my own mother. Yet, I surely hope to age boldly, and would love the inspiration and guidance.

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