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A blog by Louise Gallagher

I changed my glasses. I can see clearly now it was me, standing in the darkness

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I changed my glasses last night. I hadn’t realized they were foggy until Mary Davis, the facilitator from Choices Seminars, mentioned in an email, “all these things you have on your plate are really lovely items.”

I had written to apologize for having to back out of my commitment to coach at Choices next week. I hadn’t wanted to, back out. I absolutely love coaching at Choices and am privileged to be able to do it as often as I do. I won’t be there in April because of the wedding, and was telling myself I would be letting the whole team down if I didn’t turn up as I’d committed to this time.

I kept telling myself, “I can do this. All of it.”

And then, lying awake in the dark, trying to rosy up my glasses so I could peer into the darkness of my thinking that I was sinking beneath the juggling of all the things I had to do, I realized, it’s not true.

I don’t have to do it all. Sometimes I can’t.  Sometimes, I have to trust it will be okay.

So I wrote and let Mary know I couldn’t be there.

And still, I worried. What would she think of me? Maybe her disappointment in me would lead her to reject me. Maybe everyone would be mad at me and never want to work with me again.

Ahhh, that critter is such a sneaky fellow. He knows I have trust issues, heck he feeds them all the time! So imagine his glee when he realized I was tripping over myself, lost in a sea of angst? HA! Gotcha! he shouted as he catapulted into a new assault of my senseless worrying about what other people think of me. True to form, when faced with even a glint of what he perceives to be my failure to heed his advice, he morphs into a new and slimy perspective designed to keep me playing small in the eye of his hurricane-force howling telling me I am a failure. I don’t belong.

Gosh, I sure can get caught up in my own darkness, and drama, when I take my sights off the truth. I’m okay. In fact, I’m wonderfully, lovingly humanly okay.

I really did think it was my job to cram it all in, juggle it all and keep the world spinning.

Mary’s gentle and loving response to my email stopped my thinking in its tracks.

I was seeing the totality of all I had to do and losing sight of the loveliness of all I had to do.

I was trapped in the dark side of my thinking it was all up to me and not seeing the loveliness and joy of all I am excited about doing.

I have a lot of lovely things on my plate. Some of them include organizing a media training day for executives in the homeless serving sector in March and working with an amazing team on the launch of a Homeless Charter of Rights in April.

My beloved and I are also planning our wedding for April 25th and over the past few months, I have had an amazing time creating for it.

And, this project of launching Calgary’s Updated Plan to End Homelessness at the Summit on March 3rd. It is exciting, inspiring, uplifting. We are in the throes of paradigm shifts and igniting collective impact. It’s amazing!

And there I was bogged down in the minutia of the ‘I’ve got to do it all’ and losing sight of how I can trust others to be doing their best too to change the world.

My glasses were foggy. I changed them.

I can see clearly now.

It was me, myself and I getting in the way of my seeing the truth — Next week at Choices, there will be a whole team of loving, caring, committed individuals doing the wonderful work of Changing the world one heart at a time.

My difference will be felt here, at the nexus of working towards a goal I believe is important to the quality of life of every Calgarian — ending homelessness.

I am truly blessed to have so many lovely things on my plate. Things that excite me and charge me up, that remind me every day — I can be the change I want to see in the world.

We all can.

 

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Author: Louise Gallagher

I believe we each have the capacity to be the change we want to see in the world, to make a world of difference. I believe we are creative beings on the journey of our lifetimes. It's up to each of us to Live It Up and SHINE!

14 thoughts on “I changed my glasses. I can see clearly now it was me, standing in the darkness

  1. Elgie,

    The world goes around without us. We cannot care for others if we do not first care for ourselves – setting limits, boundaries and figuring out priorities – keeps us available for when we do all our good work, keeps us healthy, keeps us whole.

    Here’s da udder ‘ting.

    Without you there, they will be different. You will be different.

    You aren’t gone from something you love, just not there this time.

    Must run … heading off for a Victoria weekend adventure. Work will wait.

    Mark

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  2. Why do we as women feel we have to do it all? Only we can handle that particular thing? Learning to trust that other people can do the job just fine without us, is what we all need.

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    • I don’t have an answer to the why — it is very self-defeating though! 🙂

      it is a really hard lesson for me to learn Mary — I trip myself up a lot — and then… I get to remember my contract… I am a trusting woman. It reminds me always to trust — that’s scary and I’m learning to love the scary – ok well almost love the scary. 🙂

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  3. You’re getting married Louise! How wonderful! I am so proud of you and all the ways you contribute to our beautiful city. ❤
    Diana xo

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  4. Taking care of ones self is something many people are not very good at doing, I know I suck at taking care of myself at times. I am so happy to hear you have a date for your wedding

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  5. Sometimes a person shines the light for us to see better! You have a lot on that delicious plate of yours 🙂

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  6. Such a wonderful way of seeing…..all those lovely things on the plate.
    Thanks for tweaking my perspective
    as you so often do:)
    I appreciate your open-hearted shares,
    Jennifer

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  7. I love all the projects that you are involved in…. HOWEVER … a wedding… Wow!
    Yes, you need to take some time off from other things so that you can savor the lead-up to this wonderful time in your life.
    best wishes.

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