Dare boldly

A blog by Louise Gallagher

How to build a new habit.



I have been writing a poem a day about Peace on my Poetry Affair blog.

It is hard, this commitment to write a poem a day. I’ve already missed one day!

Sort of. Almost. 

I wrote yesterday’s and forgot to post it. 

Actually, I wrote it in my head while walking with Beaumont and forgot to write it down.

This morning, there it still was, waiting for me to uncover it. To set the words free. To make them visible.

Like so many things in life. Ideas live in our heads, we carry dreams and wishes and hopes and schemes and wonder why they never appear in our lives.

As Mark said in his comment on yesterday’s post, it takes action.

Someone asked me the other day what they should do about a situation in their life they wanted to change.

“What do you think?” they asked. “Should I do A or B?”

“I don’t have your answers,” I replied. “You hold the answer you seek. Both are directions you can take. There is no wrong choice. There is only the choice you make.”

“But I want to do the right thing,” they said.

“Then do it,” I replied.

This morning, as I pondered missing yesterday’s poem posting, I considered posting it and changing the date to yesterday so my chronology would be correct.

I can do either. Change it or leave it as is.

I can still post another poem today. Or not.

What is the write thing for me to do?

What eases my mind and brings my heart peace?

An interesting question. 

What eases my mind and brings my heart peace?

My heart does not feel restful when I consciously choose to ‘cheat’, even if I am the only one I’m really affecting.

My heart does not feel restful.

And as I write the answer comes to me.

I am building a new habit. When building a new habit, patience, persistence, passion and compassion are necessary.

Patience with my clumsiness in learning new things.

Persistence in the face of my critter mind’s chatter to forget about it and fall back into old ways.

Passion to honour my higher good’s desire to express itself.

And compassion for my forgetfulness, and the confusion it instills in my mind and heart.

Begin again. Always begin again.

Searching for peace of mind and a peaceful heart, I realize the answer is simple.

I will write a poem later today on creating peace of the heart, and post it. I will have two poems posted on the same day, but they’ll be numbered so my count will still be accurate.

Whew! Another bullet dodged in my wish to do that which creates more of what I want in my life, and my desire to keep my commitments with myself.

And so, I begin again.

Author: Louise Gallagher

I believe in wonder. I believe we are all magnificent beings of divine beauty. I believe we can make a difference in this world, through every act, word, thought. I believe we create ripples with everything we do and say and want to inspire everyone to use their ripple to create a better world for everyone. I'm grateful you're here.

11 thoughts on “How to build a new habit.

  1. if it is important enough to you – you will

    if you don’t, it doesn’t change the value of what you’ve done – or prove/disprove anything

    habits, the new ones are just as much trouble/struggle to ‘install’ as the old ones are to ‘un-install’

    keep waxing poetic …

    it isn’t how much noise you make, or how often, that matters as much as how much difference you make when you speak

    and you do

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  2. I’m following right behind! Glad I have the choice! Love the blanket or the dog photo! Tooooo stinking cute!

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    • Isn’t that photo just the sweetest Di? In the mornings on the weekend I sit on the deck with Beaumont, and as it cooler in August mornings, I wrap myself in a blanket. When I came into the house for a coffee, Beau did the same thing! 🙂


  3. When the intention is there it is enough. Its just the follow through that comes with practice. 💛

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  4. Intention is the first thing in order for there to be enough

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  5. The idea of building a new habit appeals to me so much Louise. I am struggling with a bad habit so the idea of replacing it with a new habit has really helped – thank you!


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