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A blog by Louise Gallagher

Each of us is unique.

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Uniquely Myself

I trust that who I am is perfect for my unique journey and soul path.
Soulful Woman Guidance Cards (#32)

When I was younger my mother used to comment that she wished I’d stop doing things my way. She’d plead with me to please just be like ‘the others’.

I wasn’t good at it. I always wanted to carve my own path, seek my own course. Just because others did it one way didn’t make it a good way for me.

Yesterday, while visiting her at the hospital, a nurse came in to help her sit up higher in her bed. She was doing really well after the hip replacement surgery two weeks ago. Was walking a few metres with the help of a walker and though she still needed one person to help her get out of bed, she was determined to get up on her own.

And now, she’s not doing well. A cough that she’s convinced is pneumonia, (the x-rays will be back today) has left her feeling weak, frustrated and defeated. She’s not allowed solid foods and is confined to bed. Looking at her yesterday, I could see the ravages of no food on her frail body. She’s lost more weight and is now below 90lbs.

On the phone with my middle sister yesterday, my mother asked her to promise that she’d be here for her funeral. I’m ready to go, she told her. I’m sure it won’t be long.

At my sister’s admonishments that she’d be fine soon, she laughed and said, well we have to be able to joke about it don’t we?

I don’t really believe she was joking. I think she’s preparing us for what comes next.

My mother has proven to be resilient and stronger than even the doctors imagined. Her doctor calls her ‘the floor mascot’. One of the nurses told me she was doing better than any other person on the floor, in spite of them all being decades younger.

My mother does it her way.

Always has.

Perhaps it is what she saw in me that concerned her so much long ago.

It is not always an easy path. Sometimes, it feels like going against the flow. Pushing against the wind, especially in those moments where you know, without a doubt, what is best for you, and others are holding on to the way things were.

When it comes to our parents, no matter our age, it is hard to let them go.

For my mother, she is ready.

She was so excited to be walking, to be showing everyone that at over 94 she was not some helpless old lady lying in bed, ‘a burden’ (her words) on everyone. And now, despite her desire to reach 100 years of age, this latest setback of a cough that is now confining her to bed, keeping her on a liquid diet only, is bringing her down.

I understand. Life isn’t about constantly fighting the winds, it’s about setting your sails to let the wind carry you where you want to go.

My mother is tired. Her resilience is waning. Her conviction she can get through this weakening.

I want to tell her to do it her way. To be her own unique self travelling this segment of her journey with the grace she has shown all her life. To let go of aspiring to reach a certain age, or prove people wrong. (She’s been so proud of the fact she’s proven the medical staff wrong. They thought she’d be confined to bed forever.)

I want to tell her to be her own unique self on the journey of her lifetime. That no matter when she takes her final breath, the gift she’s left behind is carried forward in the grace-filled women who follow in her path. From my sisters to my daughters to my nieces, the grace my mother has always shown through trials, tribulations and triumphs is what inspires each of us to continue to live with grace in all ways, in all things.

Thank you mom. Your courage, strength and grace continue to amaze me and inspire me to live as uniquely me, travelling my journey creatively and lovingly, just like you taught me.

 

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Author: Louise Gallagher

I believe we each have the capacity to be the change we want to see in the world, to make a world of difference. I believe we are creative beings on the journey of our lifetimes. It's up to each of us to Live It Up and SHINE!

7 thoughts on “Each of us is unique.

  1. Resilience and desire to live are pretty strong driving forces; I saw this in my dad too in the last few years of his life. With each set back, dire predictions from doctors – and dogged determination to get well again and move forward. 94 is a good long run. So is a 100. Kudos to you for supporting her desire to ‘show them’. We can never predict an outcome but we can always determine our attitude …

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  2. I just looked at the 35 painting series and it is wonderful! It could be made into a set of cards, greeting cards and wisdome/tarot cards… hmmm. Im wondering how involved you are in the Academy of Rising Women group?

    Living Between the Beats,

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  3. Hell yes being unique is awesome, there is only one Jo-Anne and I am pretty sure that is a good thing, although my sister Sue is very much like me but she is not me I am older but look younger, I also have better kids hers are awful they treat her terrible most of the time

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  4. I love how you express your uniqueness Joanne! It becomes you. 🙂

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  5. She is amazing! I love this line:
    “I want to tell her to be her own unique self on the journey of her lifetime. That no matter when she takes her final breath, the gift she’s left behind is carried forward in the grace-filled women who follow in her path.”
    Go tell her Louise 💕

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