How many times have you heard yourself say, or someone else tell you, “It’s all in the timing and now is not the time.”
Or, “When it’s the right time, you’ll know.”
The question is, who determines the timing or whether it’s ‘the right time’ or not.
Fact is, if I want something to change and you don’t, you’ll find a way to tell me my timing is off. It’s a much easier let-down than, “No”.
Years ago, when I started an art studio in the homeless shelter where I worked, there was a man who every day sat in the large day area on the second floor of the shelter and painted.
As the only shelter open 24/7, it was a busy place. Full of people and noise, comings and goings that would sometimes erupt into loud arguments or angry slamming of fists against walls or people too.
The windows on the second floor were 20ft above the floor. They let in light but no view.
Everyday I would stop by the table where he sat and invite him to come up to the 6th floor studio space. It’s quieter there, I’d tell him. The view is fabulous (which it was. Floor to ceiling windows looking out over the river valley and the hillside beyond). And we’ve got coffee, I’d tell him and lots of space to spread out.
And everyday he would say, “Not today. It’s not time yet.”
One day, I asked him, “Have you picked a date yet?”
“A date for what?” he asked.
“To start coming to the studio,” I replied.
“Not yet,” he said.
“Then why not make today the day. Why not make time now?”
On that day he decided to do it.
He never looked back. And though he was still living in a homeless shelter, sleeping with 1,000 roommates every night, his creative expressions began to blossom and bloom and flourish. As did his sense of self, his pride, and his connections to others.
From selling his work in our various art shows, to painting, writing music and poetry and acting in plays and playing his music on stage as part of the various productions as a member of The Possibilities Project, he made time for creative expression. One year, he even went to New York to participate in an Off-Broadway production of Requiem for a Lost Girl that was germinated in that space by the amazing Onalea Gilbertson, His gifts are many. His contributions, significant. (He’s also the man who gave me the gift of music for two of my poems (The Gift).
I like to think it all began with making the decision to change where he sat.
As humans, we like to find reasons to resist change. We like status quo, even when it limits our freedom, our self-expression, our hearts.
Is there something in your life calling out to be changed, but you keep waiting for ‘the right time’ to make it happen?
Is there something you dream of creating that you are resisting expressing because you tell yourself the timing’s not quite right?
Decide now. Decide right where you’re sitting, right now… Now’s the time.
Now, take a step and then another. Make it happen.
None of us is forbidden to pursue our own good.Meditations, Marcus Aurelius