Hang on! Hang on! The leaves cry frantically to one another. The fall is coming. The falling is coming. Resist! Resist!
Let’s stick together, they tell one another as they huddle closer to the branch. There’s strength in numbers.
In time, none of it matters. Resistance is futile. Defiance unnecessary.
As predictable as the earth’s orbit around the sun, the fall beckons. The leaves fall. Winter descends. Spring follows.
Nature always has its way.
Let’s face it, hanging on is sometimes the only way we know to avoid the thing we fear even more than speaking in public or dying — change.
Change is in the air. It always is. Change is here to stay.
Have you ever…
Stayed in a job you hate? A relationship that made you unhappy?
Are there clothes in your closet that no longer fit? Shoes that hurt your feet? Sweaters with holes and pulled threads that you no longer wear but just can’t get rid of?
And, what about memories?
Do you keep a reel of unhappy stories on repeat in your mind? Do you replay them and replay them so that your ‘poor me’ story becomes the only story you know how to tell?
Do you wish you could change the past? Redirect the movie of your life into someone else’s story?
Well, here’s the deal. No one is powerful enough to change the past. And someone else’s story will never fit you.
All you’ve got to work with to create the life you dream of is this moment right now and your willingness to bet your life on your heart’s desires, whatever they may be.
So… what’s holding you back? What are you hanging on to?
“What am I feeling right now? Do I want to be feeling these same feelings I’m feeling right now in a week, a month, a year, five years time?”
“Is there a burning desire deep within me to make a dream come true and I am doing nothing to make it happen because I’m afraid to let go of… [name your poison] Fear of failure. Looking silly. Falling down. Being laughed at. Being right. Having to learn something new. My story of why it isn’t possible. My deeply buried belief my dreams are not worth fighting for…”
“Am I holding onto past hurts and pain because I tell myself at least I can count on the past? Nothing changes there. And anyway, I’m not ready to let go of them yet.”
Once you’ve examined your feelings and thoughts around those questions, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen if I let go of [fill in the blank] and my fear of change and the stories I tell myself and decide to just do it anyway?”
Fact is. You might fall.
Then again. You might soar too.
You’ll never know until you let go of what is holding you back…
About this post:
When I took this photo yesterday on one of my walks with Beaumont, I was fascinated by how this one bush was still covered in leaves when all through the forest the trees stood bare, stripped of their autumn finery by wind and snow and the changing of the seasons.
I wonder why this one tree hasn’t lost its leaves yet, I wondered… and then, the parallel to my life began to form.
What am I holding onto that I need to let go of? I wondered.
I think it’s a great question to begin my day.