Dancing with Shadows (a poem)

I am back home. My suitcase arrived today having decided to stay in Paris a couple of extra days. It was obviously having even more fun than me!

The challenge is, Customs obviously opened it, and, because my daughter had stuffed a few extra things in it and laid on top of it to close it, Customs simply put it in a big plastic bag. Three plastic bags actually, one on top of the other to keep everything together. I’m grateful for their consideration!

It’s nice to have it home. Though now I really do have to unpack and do the laundry!

From almost forgetting my purse when I left (I’d left it at home and didn’t realize it until after my husband dropped me off at the ferry and I was waiting to board. Fortunately, I’d called him right away and he brought it to me before the next ferry left! Losing my bag at the end is just a small end note to an amazing trip. A friend asked me yesterday what was the highlight. I didn’t have to think about it – the time with my daughter. Pure delight. The sights and sounds and experiences were amazing. But… laughing and chatting, sharing meals and talking for hours — so much grace and gratitude.

This morning, Beaumont and I walked along the shoreline, the wind whispered its secrets of far away places into the branches of the trees stretched out above us. The waves lapped along the rocks beguiling them with tales are the depths below and seagulls cawed and cussed as they dive bombed waves lapping against the shore.

And the muse stirred… and I listened.

Dancing with Shadows
by Louise Gallagher

The shadow stretches
body thrown across
freshly mown
lawn,
shorn short, prickling
its dark expanse
searching
for separation
yearning
for freedom
beyond
the tree trunk standing firm
holding it
close
to its roots
until night
stealthily descends
steeling away
the day
separating
light and shadow
slipping
silently
into oblivion.

Will the romance ever end?

Will the romance of taking the ferry ever fade? Will island life ever grow old? These were the questions swirling in my mind as I returned from a day trip to Nanaimo with my sister. A fellow passenger, J., assured me with a knowing smile, “Never. I still feel the thrill after all these years.”

J., a long-time resident of Gabriola, perfectly embodies the warm and welcoming spirit of this island. Like C.C. and me, she moved west from Calgary, seeking a different pace of life. After island hopping amongst several Gulf Islands, she finally settled on Gabriola. “They are all beautiful,” she said, “but Gabe holds a certain charm.”

It’s a charm I’m quickly discovering myself. From the friendly conversations on the ferry to the shared knowledge about everything dog related including the 411 on Friday morning community dog walks on the beach and Friday night darts at the Golf Club. There’s a strong sense of community here, a feeling of community woven through every interaction. Even the intricacies of garbage day – a topic of surprising importance on the island – reveal a unique connection to place and a respect for the environment.

Like so many people I’ve met here, J.’s story, with its reflections on aging, resilience, and connection to nature, adds another layer to the island’s allure. Her invitation to join her on a walk with her horses speaks volumes about the openness and generosity I’ve encountered in everyone I meet.

It has been just over two weeks since C.C. and I rolled off the ferry to take up residence on the island. In those few short days, Gabriola has begun to weave its magic. The initial romance hasn’t faded; it’s deepened into a sense of belonging and a growing appreciation for the island way of life. And, like J, I am holding on to the romance of taking the ferry as my heart settles into finding myself at home here at the edge of the sea.

Radiant Bold Aging

Sir Beaumont and I were walking with a friend who shared her hesitation about taking a much-anticipated trip. Her husband’s mother is not in the best of health, sparking fears of what might happen if she becomes ill while they’re across the world. It’s a valid concern, yet it cuts both ways. What might happen if they went on the trip? And what if they didn’t?

As I’ve grown in wisdom and life, I’ve learned that dreams wither without action, and with age, the belief in our potential can dim and, even fade away.

Ultimately, facing the question, ‘What might happen if I do, or don’t’ transcends more than just the realities of our day to day living. It brings us to the portal of possibility, opening us up to all that is possible when we choose to live beyond our fears, our comfort zones, and, our limiting beliefs. Ultimately, it asks us to lean into the question – Do we let worry and fear hold us back? Or, do we seize life’s opportunities, whether that’s embarking on a journey, returning to school, or asking someone out.

For me, it’s about overcoming fear to launch the business I’ve dreamt of for so long.

Doing nothing about it was keeping me stuck in that place where my dreams were just that—dreams, withering as I grow older and feeding into the diminishment of my self-confidence and growing doubts about my abilities and capacity to stay Vital. Relevant. Energized.

As an example, last October, despite my reservations, I traveled to Ireland alone. Overcoming the “monkey mind” that wanted me to stay put, ‘be realistic’ – the timing was all wrong. Travelling alone was scary… yada. Yada. Yada. I realized that succumbing to the incessant monkey mind chatter full of fear and doubt, was keeping me mired in inaction. Not stepping out of my comfort zone to travel alone, not giving myself permission to believe in my own capacity to ‘be okay’ whatever happened, which included renting a standard, not automatic, car with the stick shift on the left hand side of the steering and navigating uber-narrow Irish roads on the right hand side, was me buying into the notion, I’m too old.

I am not too old. I’m simply the age I am – and being 70 doesn’t mean I can’t learn new things, try new ways, explore new adventures. Not doing those things because I’m afraid will only teach me how to live a life unfulfilled, draining my vitality, relevance, and sense of contribution.

Aging is an inevitable journey from birth, but how we age is a choice. Our bodies, like roads exposing potholes after winter, accumulate aches and pains. However, with regular maintenance—exercise, nutrition, rest, and check-ups—we can manage or prevent these discomforts.

Living fully means facing fears and embracing life’s opportunities. It’s about proactive maintenance of our physical and emotional well-being, ensuring our life’s roads are navigable and our journey fulfilling.

What about you? Have you faced a moment where you had to choose between safety and growth? How did you decide, and what was the outcome? I’d love it if you shared your stories below. Let’s inspire each other to fill the potholes on our paths and move forward with courage and purpose.

We’re all aging. Let’s do it with passion, purpose and pizzazz! Together.

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And… I am holding a free online masterclass to share some of the secrets of aging. It’s March 26, 4 – 5:30pm MDT — click HERE if you’d like to learn more or to sign up! There are limited spaces available and it would be lovely to see you there!

The Perfect Time is Family Time

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After a delightful two-week visit with my daughter and her family, I am once again at the airport, awaiting my flight’s boarding call.

On this morning’s drive to the SeaBus terminal at Lonsdale Quay in North Vancouver, courtesy of my daughter, I mentioned what a lovely time I’d had, as always.

“Even though we mostly did nothing?” she queried.

Yes. Even as the Norovirus swept through the household, afflicting each of us in turn, I still had, the best of times. Not the worst.

The unexpected guest, Norovirus, paradoxically, became the backdrop against which precious moments unfolded. Its presence meant our world shrank to mostly staying home, to the exclusion of time spent with the children’s friends and other social activities. Fortunately, before its arrival, I was able to watch my grandson’s dedication in his Karate class and was awed by his focus and attention throughout the session. When I told him how much I admired his focus he replied confidently, “Yes. I’m very focused in Karate.”

And here’s the thing, once the virus began to roam through the house, it didn’t dampen our spirits. It instead curated moments of simple joys—building sandcastles at the beach, exploring playgrounds, wandering through forests, and strolling along North Vancouver’s scenic seawall. Together, we baked bread, made pancakes (my grandchildren are expert Chocolate Chip Testers) and laughed and played games together where it was never quite clear who actually won.

And though my grandson’s sixth birthday bash was postponed, our small celebration, complete with cake, candles, and the Happy Birthday anthem, was no less heartwarming. His excitement over new toys—a Minecraft Lego set, Air Nerf guns, and a vintage Foosball table—brought laughter and competitive spirit into our days, even as my three-year-old granddaughter amusingly disrupted the game with her innocent chaos.

These instances of togetherness, of fun and laughter, underscored the essence of family.

One memorable evening, with my son-in-law away and my granddaughter under the weather, I had the pure joy of reading bedtime stories—an unexpected, yet profoundly cherished, bonus.

And, added bonus! My daughter and I did fit in our traditional dinner at the Arm’s Reach Bistro in Deep Cover!

Could our time together have unfolded differently? Perhaps.

But the essence of its perfection lies not in the activities we did or didn’t do, but in the love, connection, and quality family time that characterized my visit. It was, in every sense, a perfect encapsulation of the joy and bond of family.

All’s Quiet on a Midday Flight: A journey through Memory and Legacy

I’ve always found a unique serenity in choosing midday flights. Unlike the bustling mornings or the weary evenings, airports during these hours whisper tales of transient calm. This time, the terminal, usually a stage for the hurried footsteps of countless travelers, offered a rare pause in its daily rhythm. Such moments of tranquility amidst the chaos of departures and arrivals are fleeting, yet profoundly appreciated.

However, adhering to the conventional wisdom of arriving two hours early for a domestic flight often seems excessive. Today, just ten minutes sufficed to navigate through check-in and security, even with a suitcase that needed checking-in. The efficiency was a welcome surprise, especially considering my departure from the newly renovated B gates. This change significantly shortened my walk, a small yet significant mercy for someone who, out of convenience or necessity, checks their luggage.

The renovation, aside from logistical benefits, hinted at a broader theme of travel: the blend of wonder and ordeal. For many, including myself, the journey to the gate is the least appealing part of travel. Yet, it’s an integral step in the dance of departure and arrival, a necessary prelude to the adventures that await.

On this occasion, my luggage carried more than just essentials. It bore fragments of my sister Jackie’s life—items destined for my daughter, granddaughter, and sister Anne. In sifting through Jackie’s belongings, we distributed much to charity, but some pieces were too imbued with memories, too rich in sentimental value, to part with. They represented not just personal history, but a tangible connection to Jackie, a way to keep her spirit alive in our daily lives.

I sit and watch passengers walk past the cafe bar where I type and wonder about my own possessions: the artifacts of travels and life events that compose the mosaic of my existence. From the shawl I picked up in Ireland to the earrings from Barbados, each item carries a story, a piece of a place, or a moment shared with loved ones. These are not mere objects but the threads from which the tapestry of my life is woven, each adding colour, texture, and depth to my personal narrative.

I ponder the future of these threads, the fate of these tangible memories when I am no longer here to hold them. Will they serve as cherished reminders for my loved ones, or will they become burdensome relics of a past no longer connected to the present?

In my carry-on, two bags of jewellery—one for Anne and one for my daughter in Vancouver—serve as a testament to these reflections. They are heavy, laden not just with their physical weight but with the emotional gravity of the memories they represent.

As I navigate through the quietude of the airport, I am reminded that our journeys, both literal and metaphorical, are interwoven with the lives of those we touch. What we carry, what we leave behind, and the memories we cherish are part of a larger narrative. It’s a narrative that transcends the individual, connecting us through the shared experience of love, loss, and the enduring question of legacy.

Who will treasure the memory of us? It’s a poignant question that echoes in the silent corridors of my midday flight, a reminder of the indelible marks we leave on the hearts and lives of those we love.

Heroes everywhere.

I am at a Starbucks in Bush Street a few blocks down from our hotel kitty corner to the gates to Chinatown.  The sun streams in through the window and San Franciso awakens.

Walking down I pass a garbage can overturned, a flock of pigeons feasting on the Remains of the day spilling out onto the road.  Further down a pile of grimy blankets hides a body sleeping on the sidewalk.  A panhandler stands holding a cup in his outstretched hand.

“I used to give to them when I first came to this country,” our Van-to-Door driver told us Thursday on our ride into the city. His voice heavy with the sounds of his country, Taiwan. His English is good. “I like this job,” he adds.  “it gives me lots of chance to practice my English.”

When he arrived in America he couldn’t speak English. Seven years later, he does. He proudly tells us of his eldest son who is graduating this year with a PhD in bio-chemistry and his younger son who just graduated with his bachelors and is going on to complete a masters.

“I don’t give to panhandlers any more,” he repeats.  “I come here with nothing. I get a job. I support my family.  I don’t care what job. I get a job. Why don’t they?”

There is an elegant simplicity to his logic. I understand his line of sight.

If only…

If only it were so elegantly simple-get a job, support yourself, do the right things to support your family, build your life.

If only…

That man driving the van is a hero.

The panhandler standing on the street is a hero.

Those who drop coins in his cup are Hero’s.

Those who walk by without a look are Hero’s.

Yesteerday, C.C and I wandered the streets. We had no clear plan, no stated destination other than if we could walk to Fisherman’s Wharf within an hour we would join a walking tour.

We got distracted. The prerequisite trolley ride. A stop in an art gallery. Photos along the way.

What I loved the most – the music. Voices from around the world. Taxi cab drivers honking their horns. Trolley bells clanging. Cars and trucks and people calling out and the buskers.

I bought four CDs yesterday. It’s part of my music of the streets collection. I have them from wherever I go. New York. Toronto. Barbados. Vancouver.  I love the music of the streets.

A man drumming on big empty tubs that once held cleaning products, another playing s guitar while we waited in line for the trolley. A band on the stage at Union Square. The Family Crest. And a trio playing soul music on the corner of Market Street somewhere along our route. A choir we happened upon in St. Mary’s Church in Chinatown. I felt like we were being serenaded by angels.

Street musicians are heroes. Musicians everywhere are heroes.

C.C. And I separated for while later in the day. He to an Irish Pub. Me to Macy’s. When I joined him an hour later where he sat at the bar nursing a beer, I chatted with one of the servers whose job it is to keep the bar flowing with cut up fruit, ice, clean glasses…

Ehria came to America at the age of 16 from Nicaragua. On his own. He’s holding down two full time jobs, working sixteen hours a day on the three days his jobs overlap.  When do you sleep, i ask. “when i die,” he replies with a smile. He got married last year to his childhood sweetheart in Nicaragua. She arrives here next month. To live. Forever, he says, a big smile opening up the light in his face. She’s a Public Defender in his country. Here she’ll have to study for two, maybe three years To be able to practice. “I gotta work hard to make our dreams come true, he says. And he will.

When I buy my Starbucks this morning the barista tells me some of his story s he prepares my Latte. He is from Honduras. “I feel safer here,” he says. He works to pay his way through University so he too can live his dream.

The immigrants who serve us, clean our room, carry and chop and wash dishes, they are all heroes.

And hero props to this country where those who arrive lost and frightened and alone believe in their dreams. Here’s to this land where dreams do come true.