Is Creativity a SuperPower?

In her book Creatrix: She Who Makes, Lucy H. Pearce writes that ‘creativity is our superpower’.

I’ve never thought of creativity as a superpower. For me, it feels as essential and automatic as breathing. Breathing is not a superpower to me. It’s life-giving. Life-necessary.

What if I step back and consider the possibility that creativity is a superpower? That in some way, its very presence has the power to create change, to transform the world, to enlighten even the darkest hearts and soothe the turbulent seas of greed, anger, jealousy, rage?

What if I embrace creativity as a gift?

What if I surrender to my drive to create? What if I stop heeding the critter’s insistence that creative urges are an ‘inconvenience’, annoying, too time consuming, too ‘over the top’?

What if I took my creativity to heart?

These questions have arisen as I read Creatrix. (Thank you Kerry Parsons for the gift.)

They’re great questions. Great points of curiosity, of inspiration, of meditation.

I am loving the questioning. Loving this space of staying unattached to knowing ‘the answers’.

Yes. My soul whispers. Stay in this place of unknowning and, no matter the question, never forget — Creating keeps you alive. It fills you up. It lifts you up. It heals you and transforms pain, anxiety, fear into life and Love.

Create, and never stop, answers my heart.

And I smile.

I am loving the book. Loving the insights and the questions it gives rise to and sparks!

And… I’m loving the inspiration so… if you’re looking for me I’ll be in the studio …  (after I finish putting away Christmas and reorganize my studio which kind of came apart in the throes of all the prep! 🙂  All good. It’s a great way to start the new year with a complete cleanse and reorg of my space.)



Be Curious. | 52 Acts of Grace | Week 50

It’s easy to tell ourselves we know everything there is to know about ourselves.

Don’t believe it. Don’t believe everything you think.

Often, your thoughts just aren’t true. They’re just constructs of your experiences colliding with your capacity to let go of who and what you believe to be true about yourself and the world around you.

Years ago, when I first started painting, I had a story I told myself for over 40 years. “I am not an artist.”

One day, when my eldest daughter was 14 and she was painting (she’s an incredible artist) I decided ‘out of the blue’ to paint with her.

I discovered I had been telling myself a lie about myself all my life, or at least for as long as I could remember.

I fell in love with art-making and continue to delve into the mysteries of the creative process, learning something new about myself and my creative essence every day.

Don’t believe everything you think, especially about the limitations you set on and for yourself. Who knows what amazing things you’re capable of if you simply stop believing your limiting beliefs?

Next time you hear yourself saying, “I can’t do that.” or, “I’m too…… old, young, stupid, weak, fragile….” be curious. Ask yourself, “What would happen if I stopped believing that and instead, dove into being curious about what I can accomplish when I let go of that thought…?”

Be curious.

About life.

About those around you.

About you.

Live the questions. Not the answers.


Ask Don’t Tell. The art and science of connecting to people.

It’s pretty simple. If you want to connect with people, the first step is to ask a question. As them about who they are, what makes their heart beat, what gives them joy, what brings them peace, what inspires them when they get up in the morning.

The second step is to listen deeply to their answers. Let them tell you what’s on their minds, their hearts, what’s rumbling in their tummies and stirring their possibilities.

The third step to connecting to people is to repeat the above, again and again and again.

Novelist, Thomas Berger wrote, “The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge.”

So often, we step into a relationship and want to tell the other all about who we are, what we do, how we make a difference. And while that’s all very fascinating and interesting to us, they are more interested in knowing if we are interested in learning about them.

To learn more about another, Ask Don’t Tell.

And yes, reciprocity is important. We all want the other person to be as interested in learning about us as we are about them.

How will you know if they are, however, if you give them everything you want them to know about you first? In talking about you first, you close the door to their curiosity, their desire to be seen and heard and known. You make it all about you and leave them out of the conversation.

In asking about them, you open the door to understanding, connecting, seeing into the other through true intimacy or, “In-to-me-see”. How will you learn what is important to them if you tell and don’t ask?

Want to give it a try?

It doesn’t matter the circumstances, the next time you meet someone new, or someone you know well, for a coffee, a walk, a drink after work, a meeting, Ask Don’t Tell.

And get creative. We all know the answer to the question: “How was your day?” (Good. Okay. You know. Fine…)

Ask instead, “What happened in your day today to make your feel alive, like you were on purpose, feeling jazzed by life, possibility, like you were making a difference?” or “What made your day fulfilling for you?” or “What was the most exciting thing that happened in your day today?” “What set your heart dancing… your mind racing with possibilities… your belly stirring?”

And then, listen to their answer. Deeply.

Look in their eyes when they speak. Lean towards them. Use the 97% of your communication that is non-verbal to show your true interest in their response to your question.

Listen deeply.

And when they’ve given you an answer, ask them to tell you more… Tell me more about (that….    )

You can ask them to ‘tell me more…’ many times.

You can get even more creative as my beautiful friend, mentor, inspiring human being Patricia Morgan of Solutions for Resilience does.

Her question is simple. “What do you think I think is incredible about you?”

The question always gives people pause to think before they answer. And after they’ve quietly (hesitantly/shyly…) said one thing they think you think is incredible about them, the response is…

“That’s true and that’s not the only thing. What else do you think I think is incredible about you?”

And after their second answer, the response is the same… “That’s true too and that’s not the only thing either. What else?”

After their third answer, you get to tell them more… “All those things are so true about what I think is incredible about you. What else I think is incredible about you is…..” And then name all the amazing, incredible, inspiring, beautiful things you think about them.

Believe me, they will be delighted to hear what’s on your mind about them!

It always leads to a wonderful, heartfelt conversation where the other person feels seen and heard and celebrated and where both feel connected to what is at the heart of our human condition — knowing and seeing and believing we have worth in a world of wonder.

Because let’s face it, the answer to who we are in the world, how we want to be seen often stays locked inside us because no one has asked the question: What makes you heart beat? What inspires you to get up in the morning? What do you do that makes a world of difference?

Deep down, we all know who we are and when we learn our own worth, we learn how to navigate the world in new and inspiring and creative way.

Knowing our own worth is important to how we navigate our world. Connecting and helping someone see their own worth is important to making the world a better place. In that connection, hearts connect and together, we make a world of difference.